Who am I? And why do I do what I do?

I am Heidi.  A Life Coach with the life experience to listen, relate, empathize, and empower women to be the best version of themselves.  Despite many obstacles, they may face.  I have learned to empower myself, hold my boundaries where I can say “no” with ease and “yes” confidence.  I call out the ‘elephant in the room” and I Jump!  No matter how fearful I may be.  I’m living a life full of gratitude, I know where I’m going.  I’m creating a life of abundance in financial, happiness, and loving relationships.  But I spent a lot of unnecessary time, depleted my energy, financial burden, and heartache to get to where I am now.

In 2012: Ideal picture is not Ideal Life

Let’s step back for a minute. The year is 2012 and 6 children.  It was another morning of pure exhaustion from living in a highly-controlling abusive relationship.  I was watching my son interact with my daughter where I noticed my son beginning to show the same negative attributes as my husband.  

At the time, we were living in the woods, partly secluded and away from neighbors.  We looked like the perfect family from the outside. Wonderful husband, doting mother of 6 children, smiles on every kids’ face and a beautiful house.  But as you know too well, things are not always what they seem.

Threats and anxiety

If you ever try to leave, I will make your life a living nightmare. I’ll take the children, all of the money and make you pay.” (not in those nice words, but you get the message). That was after one of many incidents. I was threatened then and repeatedly afterwards.  Every day I was living in “survival mode”.   I was too scared, exhausted and feeling completely defeated.

Next Move in Life is Possible!

Throughout my divorce, I suffered from PTSD and SAD.  I was having ‘trauma triggers” left and right. My self-esteem was non-existent. Shunned by my older children, living in fear of my husband and the list goes on.  I was living in shame, loneliness and depression. 

I started attending a support group, read all the self-help books you can think of and began affirmations, meditation and yoga.  All were helpful in regaining my inner strength, peace, happiness and confidence again.  It took me a great deal of time, heartache and many wrong decisions.  Ultimately, I found my freedom and regained my soul.

Day X

I was watching a situation between my son and my daughter where my son was beginning to show the same negative attributes as my husband.  That scenario triggered me to an earlier memory when my husband threw a bottle of wine at me to shut me up. (Not the first or last time for him to overpower any attempt to empower myself).

“If you ever try to leave, I will make your life a living nightmare.” I was threatened then and repeatedly afterwards.  Both my children and I were in an environment that was toxic and highly dysfunctional.  I needed to make a change for both them and myself.

I had been through an abusive marriage and then a serious car accident that left me with speaking issues.  In 2018, I was diagnosed with double breast cancer.  I had a double mastectomy, tram-flap surgery and lymph nodes removed.   I was informed I would need further medical attention.  But this was not the end for me, it was only the beginning.

TODAY I AM LOVING LIFE!

During my struggles, I often wished I had someone to help guide me along the way, take my hand and tell me what to do or at least show me what to do next. This is where I come in for you. While I can’t be there to do the work for you, I can help guide and support you along your journey so you can get to your goals quicker and with less pain and cost. I did it, I got my life back. And so can you – EVEN BETTER!